Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Your Advice on Marriage- Win a Book!
I have a new project that I hope will help us with our challenges- this time, the topic is marriage.
Today's post is not about what I say, it's about what you say. We all want to know how you deal with the challenges of being married when you have children with special needs. We want to hear all your stories, good, bad, and even ugly. Tell us what worked for you and what you advise others not to do.
It could be anything from "My husband and I make sure we say five things that we appreciate about each other every day" to "My husband cheated on me but that propelled us to save our family." Your contribution could even be about when you knew it was time to split up. All of these experiences matter and can help us.
This post will go straight into a section called, "What Works For You: Readers Give Advice," located on the right of this blog. So please don't hold back, be anonymous or not, it's up to you. From your comments, I'd like to highlight a couple and create it as its own post on this blog. These contributors would also receive a free copy of Married with Special-Needs Children: A Couples' Guide to Keeping Connected written by Laura E. Marshak Ph.D. and Fran Pollock Prezant M.Ed. CCC-SLP, courtesy of the author. Here are some reviews.
Here are some links that might interest you about marriage and special needs children:
1. Oprah Talks About Autism Divorce Rate
2. The Wall Street Journal Discusses Special Needs Possibly Causing Strain in Marriage
3. Divorce Twice More Likely When Your Child has ADHD
4. A Mother Refutes the Autism Divorce Rate on Autism Vox
5. Lisa Jo Rudy, Autism Blogger Questions if Autism Increases Divorce Rate
(Pictured: Kai and I got married at the United Nations Chapel seven years ago. It is a beautiful place but just don't get married when the General Assembly is in session. We had to have a police escort just to drive three blocks to the chapel. It was a real pain. Second photo: the cover of the book courtesy of Woodbine House)
p.s. if you would like to be anonymous but be eligible for winning the book, you must email me the contents of your comments at the exact same time you comment on the blog. You will obviously have to reveal yourself to me but your anonymity will be protected.
p.p.s. if you write a comment and don't want to leave your email address in your comment or find it hard to show how to be contacted, just keep checking this post from time to time. I'll look for you to tell you that you are one of the winners of the book.
p.p.p.s winners will be chosen by March 3 Tuesday 11:59 pm, so pls submit your advice before then if you would like to be considered. Thanks to all who contributed!