How would you feel if you received the following email from your downstairs neighbors (in an apartment building).? To be sure, I have pads, rugs, and carpets in my home as the rules of my apartment building requires but they do run around and wake up as early as 5:00 AM. I do try to curb their running and jumping but it's not always possible because that is the way a 2 year old with PDD and a 5 year old with ADHD moves about in their abode. I've told my downstairs neighbors that they have neurological disorders but noise is still noise. Take a read and if you have any advice, feel free to send me an email or leave a comment.
The past couple of months have been rough in regard to the noise. It is not fair to have to keep a broomstick nearby just to have peace and quiet. I'm not sure what to do from here as I've been continuously woken up before my morning alarm and whenever I try to take naps. Not to mention the embarrassment we feel when company comes over.
To say the least, the noise level is by far the worst it has ever been. We are not sure what has changed but it's become pretty intolerable. This has influenced mine and CCC's* decision to move out when our lease is up. We both feel we have been fair and tolerant neighbors. We've never complained to management and always come to you first.
We are aware that you have 'no-running' rules for the kids to follow, but rules with kids do not mean anything if they are not constantly reinforced. It is not your fault that the walls are thin but please be respectful of us. We don't know who your new neighbors will be but for the past 4 years you've been lucky to have twenty-somethings like AAAA and BBBB, and CCC and I. Please do something about the noise.
CCC & DDD
* AAA and BBB are the masks of real names of former roommates. CCC and DDD are the current tenants downstairs. Also, the email did come in bold print.
** I think the person needs to take "naps" because she works at night.
I want to tell them that Spencer is the cause of much of the noise and his behavior has worsened the past month for unknown reasons. I want to explain to them that behavior changes take time even if they are reinforced. I also want to tell them that even though it is the summer and they would assume that my children would be out more gettting their energy out, they are stuck at home because of therapy. (One needs to have it and the other one needs to stay home because I need to be home when a therapist is treating my son.) I'd like to also tell them that things will get better now that the kids will be in school.
I also want to remind them that I told them that because he is so young, it is really difficult to curb this behavior. Perhaps I could be bold enough to say that if they were causing the same amount of noise because they were walking around the house and making noise because they have a physical disability (like a wheelchair), I would bet that I wouldn't be receiving such an email. I also want to tell them that I let them watch way too much t.v. (Spencer watches strapped in a highchair) and play videogames (Logan) so that they won't make noise while I get things done.
I want to say all these things but my social worker and husband believe I've been too conciliatory so I think I will just not respond. All my therapists who have been in my apartment when the neighbors bang up on the ceiling think that the noise Spencer creates isn't that bad at all. I try to be understanding and say that they must feel cumulative resentment and only bang up when they have had enough.
I remember discussing a similar issue with a lawyer when another building resident yelled at my children. While I am not concerned that I'll face punitive charges by my building management, I think I'll ask her for her thoughts on my rights and responsibilities on this issue. I'll be sure to share it if I find some answers.
Click here to read my last post on what to do with neighbor troubles. I guess some things work and somethings don't.
I guess you can't blame the judging... they really do look so very typical and in many ways they are, right? I'm not a fan of juice boxes but once in a while I let them have it and they were so happy having their juice box moment.